Few things are more devastating than plans gone awry but life happens. The good news is if you are wise enough to learn from the challenges you face, you will come out a better person. I try to use these experiences to positively add to my character and to be of assistance to others that are facing similar situations. Doing this allows me to stray from feelings of anger and bitterness and instead express gratitude. I know when you are pained or disappointed the last thing you’re thinking is to be grateful. However, when the dust settles you will be able to identify the positives. Here are some of my tips for overcoming.
Self reflection is key. I try to take a step back and examine the role I played. I also look for missteps like signs I may have ignored. Taking responsibility for how my actions may have contributed to an outcome will assist me in not repeating the same mistake. At the same time I want to avoid beating myself up. This serves no real purpose.
Next I allow myself to be in my feelings. Anger is okay. Sadness is okay. I just remind myself not to live in these feelings. Acknowledge them, experience them, and then move on. Never allow yourself to stay down for too long.
Now this is where my village comes in. Talking to people you trust helps immensely. I am grateful to have a small circle of people who I can depend on. They always know what to say and what to offer. For me it’s usually just a listening ear or another perspective. The people who love you generally will not steer you wrong, at least not intentionally.
As my life changes in ways I could not have expected, I can not help but smile and feel joy when I think about the people that love me. It is a beautiful thing to love and to feel love. That love allows me to keep my smile throughout all things.