August Already?!?

Where did the year go? Wasn’t it just January yesterday? That’s how I feel.  I’ll wake up tomorrow and everyone around me will be playing Christmas songs.  Slow down! Did your year move fast too? Since we’re already into the last half of 2019, I thought I would take a moment to look back on what I have accomplished this year.

At first glance, it doesn’t seem like much being that January was just yesterday.  Still let me take a look back.  In January I was able to shoot two commercials before eloping, honeymooning, and then heading to Superbowl Live for a ten day gig.  That was a busy month.

February moved in slow motion.  It’s the shortest month of the year but it felt like the longest.  March through July were basically one month.  Though during that time I was able to add a few more clients to my promo resume and meet some wonderful people at tradeshows.  I ran into some of my favorite artists/actors while working background and going to auditions.  I was even able to sneak two more getaways in.

Now that I’m looking back I see I have actually made some moves this year and I am adding to my calendar every day.  I woke up feeling somewhat defeated by time but that was the wrong attitude.  That’s something else I have been working on this year, perspective.  Someone told me I should approach tasks with the perspective of “I get to” instead of “I have to.” It’s a way to find positives in things I otherwise wouldn’t.  I could easily focus on things that went awry but that does not benefit me.  In fact, it harms me. Instead I choose to shift my focus elsewhere.

That’s how I plan to spend the rest of the year, focusing on the positive.  Whether the rest of this year flies by or drags on I will make it my goal to find good in each day.  Some days may be a challenge but I happily accept that challenge.  I am so looking forward to what is ahead waiting for me.  May you spend the rest of the year getting to do things that you love.

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Grateful for My Village

Few things are more devastating than plans gone awry but life happens.  The good news is if you are wise enough to learn from the challenges you face, you will come out a better person.  I try to use these experiences to positively add to my character and to be of assistance to others that are facing similar situations.  Doing this allows me to stray from feelings of anger and bitterness and instead express gratitude.  I know when you are pained or disappointed the last thing you’re thinking is to be grateful.  However, when the dust settles you will be able to identify the positives.  Here are some of my tips for overcoming.

Self reflection is key.  I try to take a step back and examine the role I played.  I also look for missteps like signs I may have ignored.  Taking responsibility for how my actions may have contributed to an outcome will assist me in not repeating the same mistake.  At the same time I want to avoid beating myself up.  This serves no real purpose.

Next I allow myself to be in my feelings.  Anger is okay.  Sadness is okay.  I just remind myself not to live in these feelings.  Acknowledge them, experience them, and then move on.  Never allow yourself to stay down for too long.

Now this is where my village comes in.  Talking to people you trust helps immensely.  I am grateful to have a small circle of people who I can depend on.  They always know what to say and what to offer.  For me it’s usually just a listening ear or another perspective.  The people who love you generally will not steer you wrong, at least not intentionally.

As my life changes in ways I could not have expected, I can not help but smile and feel joy when I think about the people that love me.  It is a beautiful thing to love and to feel love.  That love allows me to keep my smile throughout all things.

How Journaling Saved My Life

Everyone needs an outlet. Sometimes life can get the best of you. The good news is you always have a choice in how you respond. Admitedly I haven’t always chosen the right response.  Fortunately I’m able to recognize my missteps and learn from them.  Self awareness is imperative in growth.  It is my hope that sharing my mistakes will prevent others from making those very same mistakes.

One of the most beneficial lessons I’ve learned is also the simplest.  Slow down.  That’s it.  For me, slowing down simply means not making major decisions when emotions are running high.  I have made the worst decisions when I was angry, sad, overly concerned, or depressed.  Taking a moment to live in the emotion helps.  I use the time to explore how I got to that emotion and if I should even be there.

Then there are my dark days.  They are not ominous as they sound.  My dark days are just an extension of me slowing down.  For me a dark day is a day of quiet.  It’s a day focused solely on meditation and prayer.  Dark days work miracles for my anxiety.  The thing is, with scheduling, dark days can sometimes be impossible.  That’s where journaling comes in.

Journaling is therapeutic.  It provides much needed release. It creates a record that can help in reaching self-awareness.  It can be done nearly anywhere.  It doesn’t have to take much time and best of all it doesn’t cost a thing.

The release I get from writing out my thoughts is priceless.  I started writing poetry at a young age.  Unfortunately I didn’t save my work.  I wrote to heal and would discard it afterwards.  I wish I hadn’t.  There’s so much value in written word.  I’m making a commitment to myself to stick to my writing and to save it.  I know in my case it will ultimately lead me to find peace during the darkest storms.  Perhaps journaling can do the same for you.

Turbulence is not a Deterrent

On a recent flight, I had time to really think about my life experiences. I thought about how specific events have molded me. It was a short flight but long enough for me to dig deep in thought.

It was an evening flight on a commercial airline that was half full.  I felt as if I was alone on the flight.  It was just me, the night sky, clouds, and occasional flickers of light below.  It was quiet outside of the hum of the plane.  I was tired and happy to have the much needed moment of peace.

It wasn’t long before that peace was interrupted by startling turbulence.  It was the kind of turbulence that has you bracing yourself.  At any moment I expected to hear an announcement saying the worse or see the oxygen masks fall from above.  That didn’t happen.

Almost as quickly as it began, it ended.  For me it felt like a much needed reminder of how quickly things can change.  It can feel like the end of the world.  Then in an instance, you’re in paradise.  That’s where I am.  So many experiences felt meant to break me.  Yet here I am, not broken, not deterred, and very much looking forward to tomorrow.

That moment on the flight was a reminder of all the things I’ve been able to overcome by faith.  It was a reminder to smile through the turbulence.  Paradise is just ahead.