Living My Life in Love

Learning to live in love is a process; an ongoing process.  For me it takes time and commitment.  I can say it is worth every bit of the effort.  Yes, there are times when I fall short.  When I do, I just get back up and keep pushing forward.

There was a time when I felt happiness was not meant for me. It felt just out of reach. I now know that it is alright to be down from time to time.  If you keep abreast of what’s going on around the world, it’s difficult not to be.  The key for me is not to stay down for long.  I embrace pain just as I do love and happiness.  The difference is I do not live in pain.

As I continue to make positive changes, I attract more positivity.  It is amazing how things seem to fall into place.  Am I where I once thought I’d be at this point in life? No.  Am I overjoyed with where I am? Absolutely! It is so easy to focus on missed opportunities.  I choose not to do that.  Instead, I identify the lesson in every experience.  I use those lessons to grow.

I am looking forward to what the future has in store and sharing some of those moments with you.  Stay tuned…

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Let it Out, Let it Go

When it comes to regrets, I don’t have many. This is not because I am confident in all of my life choices. Rather it is because all of the choices, right or wrong, came with lessons. I value those lessons. Through them I learned about myself and others. So, yes my regrets are few. Though there is one that has stayed with me for many years.

As a teenager I had a friend who experienced a loss and learned about it while out in public.  Her reaction was heartbreaking.  She screamed, cried, fell to the floor.  In my inexperience I gave her the worst advice, “don’t.”  I don’t know why I thought it was a good idea for her to hold all that emotion in.  I don’t know if I was concerned by the eyes and reactions of strangers.  I do know that was the wrong advice.

Tragedy hits us all at one point in life.  I now know how harmful it is to hold feelings of pain.  You have to let it out.  In the experience I mentioned above I think I may have been concerned about appearances.  It was the wrong thought at the wrong time.  My focus should have been solely on comforting that friend.

These days I encourage people to let it all out.  It’s okay to express feelings other than joy.  It’s okay to do it publicly.  It’s okay to be down.  Just don’t stay down.  These days I encourage everyone, myself included, to let it out and let it go.  It does so much for the healing process.  It becomes more difficult to recover from tragedy when you aren’t able to properly mourn.

Let it out.

Let it go.

Live.

Tips For Promotional Models

As a seasoned promotional model, I have learned very simple ways to make huge impact at events. Being detail oriented always helps. Over the years I have learned how to leave my clients ecstatic and turn what would be a one time gig into ongoing gigs.

I was recently asked to share my knowledge of promo modeling to new comers in a sit down interview with Vantage Advertising. Here are some excerpts from that interview.

 

For more helpful tips, follow Vantage Advertising on YouTube.

Here Comes the Bride

Wedding season is quickly approaching. All of the planning, although fun, can quickly become overwhelming. Wedding Expos are a convenient way to eliminate some of the stress. You can essentially have meet and greets with all your potential vendors without taking up very much of your time.

There are many expos to choose from. They are in no way created equally. My favorite is the Wedding Experience. Check their website for locations. ( http://www.weddingexperience.com )   I recently visited the expo at the Baltimore Convention Center. If you plan on marrying in the DMV and missed this expo, don’t worry. I’ll share website links to my favorite vendors of the event.

 

Shira’s Event Design Services Picks 

Ksquared Events and Design http://www.Ksquaredevents.com

Your Royal Occasions http://www.yourroyaloccasions.com


Shira’s Photographer Pick

Gobrail Photography http://www.GobrailPhotography.com

Shira’a Bakery Picks

SugarBakers Cakes  http://www.sugarbakerscakes.com

Stone House Cakery http://www.StoneHouseCakeryandCafe.com

Shira’s D.J. Pick

Horizon Entertainment http://www.horizonentertainment.com

Shira’s Travel Agency Pick (Destination wedding/honeymoon)

Dreamers Travel http://www.dreamerstravel.com

Happy Planning!

Next Week I’ll Be Overweight

Next week I’ll be overweight and I couldn’t be happier.  You may be wondering why I am happy about being overweight.  The answer is simple.  Today I am obese so overweight will be an improvement.  It is funny how weight sneaks up.  One day you wake up and you’re thirty pounds heavier than you thought.  It seems to just come out of nowhere.  You never see it coming.

I stopped weighing myself a long time ago.  I made the decision to assess my size by my measuring tape and the fit of my clothes.  I did notice a change.  Suddenly my waist was measuring an extra two inches.  I worked to get it off but the two inches grew to three.  The good thing is that I always gain weight in porportion.  My bust, waist, and hips all gain the same amount of inches; so I think I carry the weight pretty well.  The bad thing about it is it makes the weight gain easier to ignore.  Stress did not help either.  Certain stressors send me to food while others put me in starvation mode.  Guess which one I experienced.  I knew it was a problem.  My pants were getting tighter and tighter.  I knew it was a problem but stress…

I finally decided to really put my weight issue in the forefront after seeing my doctor a little under two weeks ago.  I bought a scale and I set the simple goal of two pounds a week.  My first week I lost five pounds.  That was just the motivation I needed to keep it up.  I’m three days away from my two week marker and I have already lost another four pounds.  The weight is coming off much faster than I anticipated.  Five pounds a week is beyond my expectations.  I was giving myself roughly a month to lose ten pounds and I may exceed that goal in two weeks.

So yes, I am pretty proud of my accomplishments so far.  Now you understand my excitement over being overweight.  I just need to keep up the momentum and do my best to manage stress.  One day at a time until I reach my goal…

Out of the Red – Managing My BP

I am finally out of the red and I am so grateful. I cannot celebrate yet though….well maybe just a little.  I have been in the red for longer than I would like to admit.  I was determined though, to get this under control.  This reading is evidence of my efforts working.  This is just the beginning. This is just one day.

My blood pressure has been a major concern.  Hypertension is prevalent on both sides of my family.  I realize that with my efforts I still may not be able to manage it completely on my own.  Ultimately that is my goal.  I am actively working to achieve that goal by managing stress where I can, paying attention to my diet, and exercising regularly.  Seeing that green today was just the motivation I needed to keep going.

Check out some of the steps I have taken to date:

https://shirareneebethea.wordpress.com/2017/11/01/next-step-exercise/

https://shirareneebethea.wordpress.com/2017/10/26/self-care/

https://shirareneebethea.wordpress.com/2017/11/14/baby-steps-back-to-good-health/

Spa Day at Home

This time of year, it becomes increasingly difficult to convince myself to leave the house. Even when the outcome is beneficial, like a stress relieving day at the spa or a much needed fitness class. I just can’t bring myself to do it. Sometimes getting out of the bed is challenging in itself; making leaving the house next to impossible.

I’m trying new things to combat the stress that comes with the changing seasons. One thing that seems to be working is giving myself activities to look forward to inside the house. Maybe it will raise my spirits enough to actually leave the house. Maybe not. At a minimum it gets me out the bed. That’s progress.

Spa days at home are life savers. I spend hours on scented baths, showers, exfoliation, clay masks, facial massage, moisturizing, manicures, and pedicures. When I’m done, I feel a little lighter, a little less stressed, a little more prepared for the outside world. It doesn’t have to be expensive.  It doesn’t have to take hours. Your only moment alone may be the shower. If so, use that time.   Also it doesn’t have to be expensive.  Whether you find products in a department store, drug store, or grocery store doesn’t matter.  What matters is taking out time for you.  Afterall, if you don’t take time out for you you’ll be less able to help others.