When it comes to regrets, I don’t have many. This is not because I am confident in all of my life choices. Rather it is because all of the choices, right or wrong, came with lessons. I value those lessons. Through them I learned about myself and others. So, yes my regrets are few. Though there is one that has stayed with me for many years.
As a teenager I had a friend who experienced a loss and learned about it while out in public. Her reaction was heartbreaking. She screamed, cried, fell to the floor. In my inexperience I gave her the worst advice, “don’t.” I don’t know why I thought it was a good idea for her to hold all that emotion in. I don’t know if I was concerned by the eyes and reactions of strangers. I do know that was the wrong advice.
Tragedy hits us all at one point in life. I now know how harmful it is to hold feelings of pain. You have to let it out. In the experience I mentioned above I think I may have been concerned about appearances. It was the wrong thought at the wrong time. My focus should have been solely on comforting that friend.
These days I encourage people to let it all out. It’s okay to express feelings other than joy. It’s okay to do it publicly. It’s okay to be down. Just don’t stay down. These days I encourage everyone, myself included, to let it out and let it go. It does so much for the healing process. It becomes more difficult to recover from tragedy when you aren’t able to properly mourn.
Let it out.
Let it go.