I began my transition five years ago. I was in the habit of wearing my relaxed shoulder length dark brown hair in a wrap. You could say that was my signature hairstyle. One day without warning I made a change. Unlike most that transition from relaxed to natural hair, my big chop was not planned. It was spur of the moment. Looking back now, I have a little more insight on why I may have made the decision when I did. Some people say when women suddenly cut off all their hair there’s often more to it than a physical change. I was no exception.
I remember the drive to the hair salon. The salon was only a few miles away but there was a marathon that day. The commute ended up being well over an hour. When I arrived I remember being hot and frustrated. I asked my stylist to twist my hair. This wasn’t something I never asked before and I am still unsure what made me do it. When she was done I told her to just cut it all off. After ensuring that was what I wanted to do, she did it. I went home that day with about an inch of hair in double strand twists lying on my head. I received mixed reactions that day. It wasn’t that it looked bad. People just weren’t used to seeing me that way. The reaction that left a lasting impression came from a five year old. When she saw me she didn’t say a word. She just shook her head no. She was typically talkative. I’m sure she had plenty to say about me when I was out of sight.
Fast forward five years, I love my hair. I wish I would’ve done this sooner. There’s so much versatility with my natural hair. I save a ton of money since I can style it myself. I usually twist and untwist it. Though I can just moisturize my hair right after my shower and go. I can pin it up, just pin one side, or even create a faux hawk. If I miss my wrap, I have my hair flat ironed. For me the transition wasn’t just physical. It was the beginning of a new me. Removing my relaxed hair was symbolic of me removing things from my life I did not need. I don’t regret the decision one bit. I’ve never been happier or prettier.