Full Figure Comfort

I’ve been living my entire full figured adult life wrong and no one told me. A few days ago I flew into a rage…It’s funny now thinking back on it…but I was angered. Why? Because I was uncomfortable. That particular day my underwire was overly present. In case you haven’t figured it out, this post is about bras.  I have loved my bras most of my life but as my breasts grew my bras stopped loving me.  If I’m spending over fifty dollars for a bra I need it to meet all my wants.  Unfortunately, I was looking in the wrong places.  My wants are simple enough.  I like pretty things.  I am a collector of pretty things.  I want a variety of colors and prints.  I want lace and dainty details.  I also want support.  Lastly, I want comfort.

My anger ensued after arriving home from a long day.  I was maybe two hours past the limit on my bra.  That’s another thing that bothers me.  Why does the comfort level change with time? I don’t mean after several wears.  I mean in one day.  Why does the comfort level change within hours?  In a perfect world all my bras would be made out of supportive memory foam.  If you’re a designer and your reading this, I just gave you your next million dollar project.  That day my mind was made.  I needed a change.  So I started surfing the net looking for suitable wireless options.  This is what I found.

It’s comfortable, functional, padded, and pretty.  I bought one in black and another in pink.  There’s more, the price was right.  I paid $9.99 for two bras at Burlington.  This particular bra is Daisy Fuentes but here are some other options at the same price point.

https://www.burlington.com/b/Full-Figure-2-Pack-Lacy-Strap-Seamless-Bras-276408649.aspx?h=68739

https://www.burlington.com/b/2-Pack-Seamless-Wire-Free-Bras-278215018.aspx?h=50078,57058

https://www.burlington.com/b/2-Pack-Wire-Free-Bras-278101407.aspx?h=57058

https://www.burlington.com/b/Soft-Cup-Wire-Free-Bra-277631486.aspx?h=57058

https://www.burlington.com/b/Two-Pack-Wireless-Lounge-Bra-278021422.aspx?h=57058

I can’t believe I’ve been paying ten times as much to be uncomfortable.  This past week I have been a happier person.  I credit the bras.

 

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Dezmen “Dez” Jones

Please continue to pray for my family and yours.

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Patience is Golden

I have seen “never” evolve into “now” a time or two. It is an unexpected beauty to behold. What it has taught me is to stay in the game. Don’t give up.  What you need is almost always on the other side of giving up.  Just don’t give in to that feeling of defeat.  I am so grateful to have witnessed my patience pay off.

It is a process I have to apply to every aspect of my life on an ongoing basis.  Patience is needed for every goal set.  If you have the strength to get past those thoughts of “never” your reward will be worth all the effort.  We’ve all been there; stuck in a state of doubt.  Maybe you are thinking you will never reach your career goals or relationship goals.  If you believe you won’t, that belief will become your truth.

Instead of living in doubt, live in determination.  Exercise patience.  Couple it with perseverance and watch the blessings flow.  I make it a point to show gratitude even when things aren’t quite how I’d prefer them to be.  The result is overwhelmingly positive.  Today may not be my day but I remain grateful and patient.  Gratitude and patience bring me calm and peace.  When I shift my focus away from what’s not going well, the “never’s,” it allows me to change my perspective.  It allows me to see how things fall into place.

Just like that a “never” can turn into a “now” when it’s least expected.

Turbulence is not a Deterrent

On a recent flight, I had time to really think about my life experiences. I thought about how specific events have molded me. It was a short flight but long enough for me to dig deep in thought.

It was an evening flight on a commercial airline that was half full.  I felt as if I was alone on the flight.  It was just me, the night sky, clouds, and occasional flickers of light below.  It was quiet outside of the hum of the plane.  I was tired and happy to have the much needed moment of peace.

It wasn’t long before that peace was interrupted by startling turbulence.  It was the kind of turbulence that has you bracing yourself.  At any moment I expected to hear an announcement saying the worse or see the oxygen masks fall from above.  That didn’t happen.

Almost as quickly as it began, it ended.  For me it felt like a much needed reminder of how quickly things can change.  It can feel like the end of the world.  Then in an instance, you’re in paradise.  That’s where I am.  So many experiences felt meant to break me.  Yet here I am, not broken, not deterred, and very much looking forward to tomorrow.

That moment on the flight was a reminder of all the things I’ve been able to overcome by faith.  It was a reminder to smile through the turbulence.  Paradise is just ahead.

Living My Life in Love

Learning to live in love is a process; an ongoing process.  For me it takes time and commitment.  I can say it is worth every bit of the effort.  Yes, there are times when I fall short.  When I do, I just get back up and keep pushing forward.

There was a time when I felt happiness was not meant for me. It felt just out of reach. I now know that it is alright to be down from time to time.  If you keep abreast of what’s going on around the world, it’s difficult not to be.  The key for me is not to stay down for long.  I embrace pain just as I do love and happiness.  The difference is I do not live in pain.

As I continue to make positive changes, I attract more positivity.  It is amazing how things seem to fall into place.  Am I where I once thought I’d be at this point in life? No.  Am I overjoyed with where I am? Absolutely! It is so easy to focus on missed opportunities.  I choose not to do that.  Instead, I identify the lesson in every experience.  I use those lessons to grow.

I am looking forward to what the future has in store and sharing some of those moments with you.  Stay tuned…

Let it Out, Let it Go

When it comes to regrets, I don’t have many. This is not because I am confident in all of my life choices. Rather it is because all of the choices, right or wrong, came with lessons. I value those lessons. Through them I learned about myself and others. So, yes my regrets are few. Though there is one that has stayed with me for many years.

As a teenager I had a friend who experienced a loss and learned about it while out in public.  Her reaction was heartbreaking.  She screamed, cried, fell to the floor.  In my inexperience I gave her the worst advice, “don’t.”  I don’t know why I thought it was a good idea for her to hold all that emotion in.  I don’t know if I was concerned by the eyes and reactions of strangers.  I do know that was the wrong advice.

Tragedy hits us all at one point in life.  I now know how harmful it is to hold feelings of pain.  You have to let it out.  In the experience I mentioned above I think I may have been concerned about appearances.  It was the wrong thought at the wrong time.  My focus should have been solely on comforting that friend.

These days I encourage people to let it all out.  It’s okay to express feelings other than joy.  It’s okay to do it publicly.  It’s okay to be down.  Just don’t stay down.  These days I encourage everyone, myself included, to let it out and let it go.  It does so much for the healing process.  It becomes more difficult to recover from tragedy when you aren’t able to properly mourn.

Let it out.

Let it go.

Live.